Family divided after woman refuses to change her son’s surname after remarrying
A woman has upset her new husband’s family because she refused to changer her son’s surname to match their own, and now the family are divided over the decision
A woman who remarried after the father of her son passed away has upset her new family as she’s refused to change her child’s last name to match their own.
Sharing the story anonymously, the woman said that her son is six-years-old and that she has been married to her new husband for three years.
She added that the family she married into all loved her son, and had suggested on several occasions that she change his last name to match theirs.
But she repeatedly refused, and now it’s got to the point where they family cannot understand why she is refusing – and have now taking offence.
Taking to Reddit, the woman said: “My mother-in-law and sister-in-law said I was a hypocrite for expecting them to treat my son as their own and yet refuse to let them give him their last name.
“I responded that they’re the ones letting a name dictate the kind of relationship they have with my son. I don’t understand why it’s so important to have my son have their last name. Like it’s supposed to complete him or something.
“My mother-in-law still argued about it after I said this was between me and my husband and didn’t stop so I left during dinner then got a text from her, thanking me for rudely telling her that her family’s name isn’t good enough for me and my son.
“She said it’s my decision to keep my son’s last name but should no longer expect them to treat him as if they are his family after I made it abundantly clear that they are not.
“She emptied the room she had for when my son visits and my sister-in-law sent her husband to get back the gifts she gave to my son and made up an excuse for it.
“I was hurt and consulted my mum who said I should show my inlaws compliance if I wanted benefits for me and my son’s future since they have potentials and are well off. My son’s current last name is ‘useless’ at this point according to her.
“My husband is conflicted – one minute he’s saying his mum kind of has a point, the next he’s on the phone yelling at her to stop it.”
The woman shared her story in an attempt to get advice on her situation, and soon she was inundated with comments from strangers – many of whom said that she was in the right.
One user said: “Your mother in law is a piece of work and I am appalled that your husband is not backing you up on this. You are absolutely right in that your son already has a father.
“It’s wonderful that your husband loves him as his own but the only person who gets to decide if your son changes his name is your son. And he is not old enough to make that decision yet.”
And another added: “So if your in-laws had a daughter, and she got married and changed her surname, they would no longer consider her family?”